There is an overwhelming number of elderly people living alone while suffering from some form of dementia. The truth is, we will never get a precisely accurate head count since so many senior citizens live under the radar, and alone, trying to fend for themselves. Sadly, even some of their own family members ignore the situation or are wedged in, denial, until their loved ones become seriously ill or injured. Also regrettably, it often takes a tragic occurrence to force some people to take notice that something is seriously wrong.
Sometimes hospitalization can be a blessing for these companionless people. (And for one who has spent years on educating hospitals to become more dementia-friendly, it’s hard to believe I just wrote those words.) At long last such folks receive not only a diagnosis but also the attention and recognition they so deserve.
Dehydration or accidental over-medication are the most common causes for a trip to the emergency room, which may result in a home health agency providing some overdue companionship and supervision. If these individuals are truly alone, care professionals may recognize the need for a court-appointed, licensed guardian.
The progression of Alzheimer’s or other dementia-related diseases can advance rapidly in some, but may be more of a gradual decline in others. Either way, the time frame in which to make plans is limited. As the clock ticks, the period of time that it is safe to live alone will dwindle.
It is essential that we pay close attention to our senior citizens, whether in our neighborhoods, churches or even in the grocery stores. Here are some signs for which to be on the lookout:
● Have they become uncharacteristically apathetic, pessimistic or overly suspicious?
● Have they become isolated, never wanting to go out?
● Do their conversations start to ramble and/or do they frequently repeat themselves?
● Are you receiving fewer phone calls from them?
● Are you noticing stacks of unopened mail or anything else you might think is out of their norm? Trust your instincts; they are usually correct.
That “senior moment mentality” needs to become a saying from the past. Instead, the present and future should be full of questions and inquiries. It’s better to be apprehensive and stick our noses in then to ignore these types of situations altogether until something critical finally happens. And if you know any family members, please contact them.
Ask the senior you’re concerned about questions like: “When was the last time you’ve been to the doctor? Have you talked to your family lately? Where do your children live? Do you need a ride to the grocery store?” Casually try to ascertain any contact numbers without offense. Don’t be afraid of getting involved. You could possibly be saving a person’s life!
Being a Good Samaritan is admirable. Helping someone in trouble or distress is something to be proud of.